CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!
If you are looking for a place to hold your wedding ceremony we invite you to read through the following information. Most of what you need or want to know (and probably stuff you didn't know you wanted to know) is included. Once you have looked through the information and still feel YPC is a place you would like to exchange your vows, please give us a call to discuss any further questions and check on your date.
Who can be married at Yorkfield Presbyterian Church?
It is not a requirement of the Church that you be a member here in order to be married in our sanctuary. The Pastors are willing to officiate at the wedding of nonmembers as their schedules permit. However, even if time is available, they can not commit themselves to a wedding until after they have met with the couple and have determined their readiness for marriage. Though it is not a requirement that you be a member of the Church to have your wedding here, it is significant that you recognize the importance of asking God to be at the center of your marriage. The wedding service itself is a worship service in which we acknowledge God's presence, thank the LORD for bringing you two together, and ask God's blessing through the years of your marriage ahead.
May we rent the church and bring our own pastor?
Yes, this option is also a possibility. In this case, Yorkfield will supply a church coordinator to work with you, who will also be on the premises for your rehearsal and wedding to answer questions, troubleshoot last minute details, and assist you in any way possible.
It's Your Marriage not Ours!
Though there are certain promises you must make to each other as you affirm your love for one another and your desire to spend your life together, most everything else you have seen at a wedding is merely custom or tradition. We want you to feel free to make your wedding completely yours by customizing it in any way you would like. Several options are covered in this booklet and the Pastor will present you with others as you spend time considering the Ceremony itself.
What do I do to reserve my wedding date?
1) Call or email us to check on the availability of your preferred wedding date. 2) You will need to have a conversation with one of our Pastors, they can usually be reached by phone (630.833.6600), Monday-Thursday 10am-4pm. 3) Pay a $100 deposit to reserve your date. (Checks payable to Yorkfield Presbyterian Church)
REQUIREMENTS OF THE COUPLE
The Bride and Groom will need to meet with the Pastor for three COUNSELING SESSIONS prior to the Rehearsal and Wedding. During these times together the minister and couple will:Review the Prepare/Enrich diagnostic inventory—a 225-285 question assessment of several aspects of your relationship, which you will take online prior meeting with the pastor.
Plan the Wedding Ceremony
Review the responsibilities and adjustments of life together as husband and wife
Focus on the lifelong promises you will be making to each other
The Couple will take responsibility for securing the MARRIAGE LICENSE from the DuPage County Courthouse and bringing it to the Rehearsal. (The pastor will fill out the remaining parts and mail the Clerk's part back to the courthouse and return the couple's part back to them.)
Address: DuPage County Clerk, 421 North County Farm Road, Wheaton, IL 60187 Phone: (630) 682-7035
REQUIREMENTS: Both bride and groom must come to the court-house to apply no earlier than 60 days prior to the wedding. You will be required to pay a $35.00 application fee and provide a Government Issued Photo ID.
The Couple will have paid all fees for the Wedding by the evening of the Rehearsal.
Schedule of Fees
Fees are listed as:
Member | Non-Member (with YPC Pastor) | Non-Member (with Own Pastor)
Sanctuary rental & Custodial Fees: $120 | $1,050 | $950
Music Coordinator: $150 | $200 | $200
Organist: $175 | $225 | $225
with soloist: $200 | $250 | $250
Soloist: (As negotiated with them)
Child Care: (cost varies depending on # of children)
Printed Bulletins: $100 | $150 | N/A
Candelabra: $ 40 | $50 | $50
Pew Candles: $100 | $150 | $150
All fees are due prior to beginning the rehearsal
Music can be a significant and beautiful part of the wedding service. As a couple you have a great deal of latitude on the amount and kind of music you would like to have in the service. Some answers to questions you may have:
You are not required to have music of any kind.
You may have a friend, family member or professional musician play our organ or piano instead of our organist/pianist.
The Church has both an electronic organ and a Kawai Grand Piano. Our organist/pianist is accomplished at both.
Music Coordinator – Our Director of Music, Dylan Rehm (630) 464-2267, would be happy to help coordinate all the musical aspects of your wedding. From suggested service music to soloists and instrumentalists Dylan can help you plan for a variety of options and musical styles, as well as recruit and direct brass, strings, vocals or just about anything you might wish. The fee as listed on the fee page, also includes Dylan performing as a soloist at the wedding if you so desire.
If you would like to use our Organist/Pianist, Darlene Richards (630) 961-9488, you will be responsible to coordinate your music requests with her. She has a large repertoire of wedding music and is also willing to play unfamiliar music, if you agree to supply her with the sheet music at least one month prior to the wedding. We strongly encourage you to set up an appointment to meet with Darlene at the Church immediately following a regular Sunday Worship Service, so she may play different selections for you in order that you may actually hear and select the music that will be played at your wedding. Ordinarily, the Organist will not be present at the Rehearsal.
Traditional places in the Wedding Service for Organ/Piano Music:
Prelude; Processional; Music for Bridesmaids; Music for Bride; During the Unity Candle Ceremony (optional); Recessional; Postlude
VOCALISTS: It is certainly agreeable for you to incorporate vocalists into your wedding as well. If you do not know of anyone who might be willing to sing, you may contact the following: Dylan Rehm (soloist) 630.464.2267, Dan Miller (soloist) 630.833.2716, John Borland (soloist) 708.557.9533
Traditional places in the Wedding Service for Vocal Music (usually no more than 3 selections):
Immediately prior to the processional; Following the Sermon, before the exchange of vows; The Lord's Prayer following the exchange of rings; During the Unity Candle Ceremony
OTHER INSTRUMENTS: You should not feel limited to these possibilities alone, as we have had weddings which featured bagpipes, harp, string trios, flute, brass, guitars and other instruments. You are welcome to use other instruments.
RECORDED MUSIC: The Church sound system has the ability to play CD recordings or MP3/IPOD files, either as music for the Processional/Recessional, OR as accompaniment for vocalists. If you choose to use pre-recorded music for the service, you will need to supply someone to run the sound system during the service. One of our staff will train your volunteer at the wedding rehearsal.
You may also want to select one or more HYMNS for the congregation to sing as part of your wedding celebration.
Microphones (including wireless) are available for musicians and speakers.
The sanctuary also has two 65” flat screens and projection equipment if you would like to show a PowerPoint or video [with Options]
There are a number of options the Church has available for Candles. You may feel free to use or not use them as you see fit.
CANDELABRA - The Church has two 7-point candelabra (black bases with white candles) standing approximately 7-feet high. Normally these are stationed on either side of the Communion Table.
PEW CANDLES - The Church also has 5 pair of black Pew Candle Holders with glass hurricane lamps and 5-inch candles that stand approximately 6-feet high and line the center aisle of the Church (usually every 3rd row).
UNITY CANDLE - If you would like to have a Unity Candle Ceremony as part of your wedding, you will need to supply the Unity Candle, the two regular 12-inch candles to light it with, and holder(s). (You may want to keep the Unity Candle so that you can relight it on each anniversary in the years to come.) Often florists will design a flowered centerpiece for the Communion Table that will incorporate the Unity Candle arrangement.
AIR CONDITIONING—YES, the Sanctuary and Lobby are air-conditioned, as well as the various rooms the Bridal party will be using prior to the wedding.
AISLE RUNNER—In case you are planning on having an aisle runner (usually supplied by florists and pulled out by one of your ushers), the length you need is 75 feet.
BIRDSEED, ETC.—Wedding guests are allowed to throw birdseed, rice, or flower peddles outside the Church following the wedding. Bubbles are fine, too.
CHILD CARE—The Church has well-equipped nursery and toddler rooms just off the sanctuary. If you are planning on having young ones present at the rehearsal and/or wedding we can provide skilled child care for them while their parents are in the service. We even have wireless vibrating beepers to call parents to the nursery if needed. Costs vary depending on number of children. For details contact our Nursery Coordinator, Laurel Geraldi, at 630-484-4286.
FLOWERS & BOWS—You are free to be as creative with flowers as you like. The chancel area is set up to receive two sprays, you may have others as you like. You may also wish to use flowers or greenery to decorate your Unity Candle, pew candles, candelabra, etc. You may also use bows to decorate the pews or candles. Of course, flowers and bows are not necessary. Again, it’s your wedding!
HANDICAPPED ACCESSIBILITY—The Church is equipped with an elevator (accessible through the North Entrance via the back parking lot) and handicapped accessible restrooms on all levels. There are also spaces available for wheelchairs within the sanctuary.
PEWS—The sanctuary has a middle aisle and a 3-step raised chancel area. (See the floor plan.)
PHOTOGRAPHY—Still photography and video cameras are allowed with the following qualifications: since the wedding is taking place in the context of a worship service, photographers are permitted to use flash and to move around prior to and during the processional and during and after the recessional. But there should be no flash and no movement of photographers from the end of the Processional until the Exchange of Affection. (This is fairly standard procedure for weddings.)
PRINTED BULLETINS—If you would like to have printed bulletins (optional) you may have them printed by the Church or have them done yourself. If you would like for us to print them, you will need to supply the Pastor with all pertinent information one week prior to the wedding. A copy of the bulletin will be given to you to proof-read the night of the rehearsal.
REHEARSAL—Normally, the Rehearsal is scheduled the night before the wedding somewhere between 6:00 and 7:30 P.M. However, other times are negotiable. The important consideration is that everyone who will be participating in the wedding be able to be present. The Rehearsal should last no more that an hour and could take less depending on size, number and age of children participating, and other variables.
SEATING—The sanctuary will seat 225 people comfortably.
TIME & SCHEDULING YOUR WEDDING—How much time does the wedding take? You can plan on the following time commitments:
The Wedding Service 30 min. (depending on Music); Reception Line 30 min.; Photos 30-60 min.
It is not uncommon for a wedding to begin at 3:30 or 4:00 P.M. with the Reception to start at 6:00 P.M., Dinner can be served at 7:00 or 7:30 P.M. Details to Remember:
The Service is a very emotional time, and people really need to greet you after the service; You do not need to be the first people at the reception; Following the Greeting after the Service, you may make your “getaway” down the sidewalk and into your car, drive around to the back of the Church and enter for your photos. That way, people not in the photos don’t need to stay, and can move directly to the Reception.
The following list of Scripture Readings are particularly appropriate for Christian Couples, but you are free to choose others:
Genesis 2:18-24, Song of Solomon 8:6-7, Proverbs 3:3-6, Isaiah 54:5-8, Psalm 67, Psalm 95:1-7, Psalm 100, Psalm 103:1-5, 15-18, Psalm 136:1-9, 26, Psalm 145,
Other appropriate Psalms: 8, 117, 121, 128, 148 & 150
Ephesians 5:21-33, Romans 12:1-2, 9-18, 1 Corinthians 13:1-13, Matthew 5:1-10, Matthew 5:13-16, Matthew 22:35-40, Mark 10:6-9, John 2:1-11, John 15:1-17, Colossians 3:12-17,
Other appropriate readings: Matthew 19:3-6, 1 John 4:7-12, Revelation 19:1, 5-9
TYPICAL ORDER OF SERVICE
Vocal Solo or Instrumental Introit [optional]
Lighting of Unity Candle Tapers (by Ushers or Mothers of the Bride & Groom) [optional]
Wedding Processional - Attendants’ Music: Bride’s Music
Call to Worship
“Dearly beloved, we are assembled here in the presence of God, to join this Man and this Woman in holy marriage, which is instituted of God, regulated by His commandments, blessed by our Lord Jesus Christ, and to be held in honor by all. Let us therefore reverently remember that God has established and sanctified marriage for the welfare and happiness of his people. Our Savior has declared that a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. By His apostles, He has instructed those who enter into this relation to cherish a mutual esteem and love; to bear with each other’s infirmities and weaknesses; to comfort each other in sickness, trouble, and sorrow; in honesty and industry to provide for each other and for their household; to pray for and encourage each other in the things which pertain to God; and to live together as the heirs of the grace of life.”
"Almighty and Holy God, we ask that these children of yours be truly joined in the honorable estate of marriage. As you have brought them together by your providence, sanctify them by your Spirit, giving them a new frame of heart fit for this new covenant they are making. Enrich them with all grace, whereby they may enjoy the comforts, undergo the cares, endure the trials, and perform the duties of life together as is fitting for Christians, under your heavenly guidance and protection; through our Lord Jesus Christ. AMEN."
Declarations of Intent
GROOM: “ ______________, will you have this Woman to be your wife, and will you pledge your faithfulness to her, in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all beauty and tenderness, to live with her, and cherish her, according to the plan of God, in the holy bond of marriage?” [”I will.”]
BRIDE: “ _______________, will you have this Man to be your Husband, and will you pledge your faithfulness to him, in all love and honor, in all duty and service, in all beauty and tenderness, to live with him, and cherish him, according to the plan of God, in the holy bond of marriage?” [”I will.”]
The Blessing of the Parents [optional]
"Who wishes to add their blessing to this marriage? [“Her mother and I do,” ”We do” (if all parents stand), etc.]
The Blessing of Family & Friends [optional]
"________ & _______ do not come to this moment without gratitude for you, their family & friends, who have loved and supported them over the years. They are eager to have your blessing as they embark on their new life together. If you wish to give them your blessing, and, if you will promise now to encourage them and support them in these promises they are about to make, please say, “I will.”"
Hymn, Vocal or Instrumental Music [optional]
The Promise and Covenant Between Bride & Groom
GROOM: "I, _______, take you, _______, To be my wedded wife. And I promise, Before God and these witnesses, To be your loving and faithful husband, In plenty and in want; In joy and in sorrow; In sickness and in health; As long as we both shall live."
BRIDE: "I, _______, take you, _______, To be my wedded husband. And I promise, Before God and these witnesses To be your loving and faithful wife, In plenty and in want; In joy and in sorrow; In sickness and in health; As long as we both shall live."
Exchange of Rings
“As you place these rings on each other’s fingers, symbolizing the promises you have just made, please repeat after me:”
GROOM: "This ring I give you, In token and pledge, of our constant faith and abiding love."
BRIDE: "This ring I give you, In token and pledge, of our constant faith and abiding love."
“Most merciful and gracious God, of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named: Bestow upon these servants of yours the seal of your approval, and your Fatherly benediction; granting to them grace to fulfill, with pure and steadfast affection, the vows they have just made. Guide them together, we ask you, in the way of righteousness and peace, so that loving and serving you with one heart and mind all the days of their lives, they may be abundantly enriched with your everlasting favor, in Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.”
“The Lord’s Prayer”
(Congregation) [optional: may also be sung by congregation or soloist]
Unity Candle Ceremony [optional, w/optional music]
“God has declared that a Man and a Woman should give themselves to one another and become one flesh...that the light he has given each they might share together...so that the love which burns between them might light their path into the future.”
Sands Ceremony [optional]
___________&__________, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives: your separate journeys, separate families, friends, aspirations and dreams. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated again, so shall your marriage be. From this day on you are both uniquely one.
Declaration of Marriage
"By the authority committed unto me as a Minister of the Church of Christ, I declare that _______ & _______ are now Husband and Wife, according to the ordinance of God, in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen." [joining the couple's right hands] "Whom therefore God has joined together, let no one separate."
Exchange of Affection (“You May Kiss the Bride”)
Presentation of the Couple
“Friends & Family, I present to you: __________________”
Postlude & Greeting by the Bride & Groom